Relationships within the family are the seed for success. After all, the guy who dies with the most toys does not win. The guy who dies with the most memories does win. This is why relationships with your family members are so important. Most of the memories we hold on to are the memories with our families. I especially connected with Langston Hughes' view of family life through the piece "Mother to Son" (52). In the poem I feel a close connection between the mother and son. My own mother has always encouraged me never to give up when times get rough. She always uses herself as an example, telling tales of her hardships. I know that my mother and I have closeness and that is why we are able to communicate this way. I sense the same message from this mother when she says, "Don't you fall now-For I'se still goin', Honey, I'se still climbin' and life for me ain't been no crystal stair" (Hughes, 52). The mother acknowledges that everyone climbs stairs in life. She explains that sometimes people climb small, smooth steps, and others must climb raggedy, old stairs with holes in them, making it difficult to keep climbing. Hughes also portrays poverty through the mother's rugged words. Hughes uses very understandable metaphors when he refers to the stairs. His symbolism technique helps the reader to connect with the words more intimately.
Families can be poor and happy or vice versa, as the core, family relationships help lay the path for life. As I mentioned before good and bad experiences can stay with a child for a lifetime. Lucille Clifton writes, "Forgiving my Father" (47), where a young woman questions why her father had not given her deceased mother more financial security. "I wish you were rich so I could take it all and give the lady what she was due…" (Clifton, 47). The daughter persona feels that with better financial security the family would have been all around…happier. The daughter holds forgiveness captive from her father because now she must take over her mother's financial stress as the new woman of the house. This experience happens to show a loose connection between family members. As a result, the daughter has even more hatred toward her father for putting her mother and now herself in such a terrible position. I can relate with these two family views. In my family we were raised with the ideal that happiness is the key whether you be blessed with money or not, although my mother's explanation didn't seem to make my outlook any easier. I can say that we were loved and that has made my outlook on life much easier. I will also admit that I was embarrassed when we didn't have enough money for a candy bar, and I looked at my mother with resentment. As children we are helpless, we are the victim of our parents choices. Children learn from their parents, put them on a pedestal because they are role models. It wasn't until I was sixteen and began to work that I realized how truly blessed I was. I noticed how much more I appreciated the possessions I had. Whereas my friends who had more possessions than I, did not appreciate what their parents had done for them. I think that my family's Friday night shopping sprees at Kmart, and 99-cent whoppers at Burger King were more valuable than a day at Disneyland. These memories are the ones I will never forget, because they were full of love, and I learned many life lessons.
Jamaica Kincaid's "girl" (13-14) expresses cultural differences as well as a different child role. The old saying "children should be seen and not heard" is evident in the girl's culture. Throughout the poem the girl's name is never mentioned, as if she were a ghost. The girl never plays about as we think a young girl to do. The girl's thoughts are very chronological and repetitive. This family is showing how important children and families are, "…this is how you set a table for dinner with an important guest; this is how you set the table for lunch…" (14). From the poem I realized that this girl lived in a completely different culture. Interestingly enough I also found that this family carried high family values. From the poems that I identified with I cannot say the same. A drunken father, and a mother who subjects her son to the same environment she is in doesn't exactly show family values.
Cultures can model the level of respect dealt from children to others. For example a teenager from the Middle East may learn to hate religion because of war, while a teenager in the US may learn to hate their parents for not buying them a car. We can see the same contrasting with Clifton, and Hughes to Kincaid. The children in Clifton and Hughes resented their position in life, while the girl from Kincaid resented not being able to be a child, and having so much responsibility.
                                              Postscript

I realized after writing this paper that my ideas were good, yet I didn't have enough to back them up. My one person in the group helped very much with productive feedback, and I used it! I threw in a little more detail, and explanation to a few paragraphs and it already looks better. The first time around I also forgot to cite, and do my postscript. I am uncertain about citing these poems that I have used through Bridges for in text citing! I can tell I am already learning.

 
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